Moving to Wordpress

To all my followers, I've moved my reflections and postings over to Wordpress. You can follow me there at:
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Fakes, Flakes and Missed Connections

So a little activity lately with interested parties, however nothing has clicked.
I've been contacted a few times by some potential players that are looking, but for a number of reasons, nothing has progressed to far.
Whether it's their fault or mine, I've tried to be pretty clear in my communication, but I'm not sure which people are the fakers that really are not portraying themselves honestly to me, or the ones that are just horney at the moment and loose patience with me trying to get to know them.
I mean, it's tricky when a potential sub contact you as a Dom on getting the lines of communication and expectations down first before going all out Dom-Mode.
Do subs actually think that a real Dominant when contacted once will immediately place their claim on the potential sub and have them groveling and frigging themselves within 5 minutes of contact? After 20 minutes of back and forth over email do they expect to be collared?
UNREAL

Sorry! Just browsing! I'm behind my screen, just out of reach!

How about you find out a little about me to make sure that I am worthy of you giving your submission to me first before just throwing it over to me? You know that kinda shows me that your submission isn't quite worthy of me if that's how easy it is to give away.
I get the others, the "it's late, I'm lonely tonite and I just wanna get off and your profile/writing really makes me hot, so I'll be your slave/slut tonite and how about you "use me" and abuse me so I can get off" attitude. But that just ain't how I roll.
You want a mindfuck, you want someone reaching into your inner psyche and grabbing it with both firm hands and shaking it to the core, well that takes a little communication, and I gotta know a few things about you, a little "give and take" goes a much longer way. That way I can really fuck you over.
But alas, so far, no luck.

But I'm patient. Good things come to those who wait, and I'm waiting for you, if you can take it!

Looking for another...

We've had a very honest and frank conversation after a looong looong time of both of us making jokes and witty hints that I should have a second wife. Well we discussed the values and merit of it and have now started the journey of looking into adding another woman to our relationship. Here's our write up:

We'll see if we get any interest.

Married couple looking for a third hetero/kinky woman in a safe, sane, and consensual environment. Wife physically not fit to play. Intercourse hurts. Not too experienced Dom husband looking for a play partner to learn and experience bondage, discipline, and mind games and sex with. Some service oriented roles farther down the line if personalities work out. Wife not interested in sex with play partner, but perhaps a little control. She is more submissive, but might have a bit of a topping streak to her.

We’ve often joked about a second wife for me, someone who can do some things that my wife either has no interest or cannot physically do. We have been together for over twenty years, but are just hitting our forties. We are very close and loving and share our lives together and that is an environment we are looking to share with another. We’ve had minimal experience with BDSM /Master/slave play as our needs/wants are not quite aligned. I’m looking for someone interested in exploring this dynamic more deeply.

Ultimate best case scenario: Find a woman who is interested in a longer term exclusive relationship (sexual with husband, nonsexual but supportive with wife) culminating in moving in and contributing to the household (second/sister wife) and becoming a third equal partner with us. We live in San Francisco and have a room available for woman to rent/contribute to household. Long term this woman would be an equal member of the household.

You should be drug and disease free, non-smoker, female, submissive and kinky between the ages of 32-45, interested in living in the Bay Area, and intelligent. Flexibility would be a plus as we are looking for a bondage girl.

We are:

Husband: 42, 6 foot, 185lbs. Dirty blond hair, trim and fit, hitting the gym to get in better shape, multiple Master’s degrees, fully employed, Dominant.

Wife: 41, 5 foot 4, heavy, recovering from operation with some additional health issue, college educated, employed, minor submissive.

One medium sized dog and one cat!

We live in San Francisco and have for most of our lives.

An update - Kink.com visit and what's been happening

Hey folks! It's been quite sometime! Things are still going on with me and slave! A few weeks ago we took a much anticipated tour of Kink.com's armory! Much fun and oh the possibilities! Slave enjoyed herself and it was one of the few times where there was nothing that "freaked" her out.

Pics left to right: Ultimate Surrender Wrestling Match set, The famous "Prop closet" of Kink.com's toys!, and the Upper Floors den.

The past other occasions where we have attended a group event, things would go fine until something would tweak her out of her comfort zone. This affect would then cause her to shut down and not be receptive anymore. The added frustration would be that she would in fact become turned off of the entire subject because of one element.

I should like to note here that although we call her "slave" and me "Master", our BDSM power exchange relationship has changed over time, and most would probably not identify with us in that lifestyle.

This journey in our relationship really has been a search for trying to strike a balance between us to draw us closer together in an emotional and intimate way. The pendulum has swung far tot he extremes for us over time, and I'm happy to say that it is still evolving. Stagnation and no change I think tend to starve a relationship rather than feed it.

Life, of course gets in the way, and some mental issues for both of us as well as some really drastic physical issues with slave have curbed much of our sexual relationship. It has been a long process of supporting each other and empathizing that has allowed us to stay together through the rough and trying times. Much of that is reflecting in my absence of posts here, as well as my erotic fiction writing and posting on sites like Literotica.com and Storiesonline.net .

Has it been rough on both of us? Yes.

We still have a rough road ahead of us.