Wednesday, March 07, 2012

An update - Kink.com visit and what's been happening

Hey folks! It's been quite sometime! Things are still going on with me and slave! A few weeks ago we took a much anticipated tour of Kink.com's armory! Much fun and oh the possibilities! Slave enjoyed herself and it was one of the few times where there was nothing that "freaked" her out.












Pics left to right: Ultimate Surrender Wrestling Match set, The famous "Prop closet" of Kink.com's toys!, and the Upper Floors den.

The past other occasions where we have attended a group event, things would go fine until something would tweak her out of her comfort zone. This affect would then cause her to shut down and not be receptive anymore. The added frustration would be that she would in fact become turned off of the entire subject because of one element.

I should like to note here that although we call her "slave" and me "Master", our BDSM power exchange relationship has changed over time, and most would probably not identify with us in that lifestyle.

This journey in our relationship really has been a search for trying to strike a balance between us to draw us closer together in an emotional and intimate way. The pendulum has swung far tot he extremes for us over time, and I'm happy to say that it is still evolving. Stagnation and no change I think tend to starve a relationship rather than feed it.

Life, of course gets in the way, and some mental issues for both of us as well as some really drastic physical issues with slave have curbed much of our sexual relationship. It has been a long process of supporting each other and empathizing that has allowed us to stay together through the rough and trying times. Much of that is reflecting in my absence of posts here, as well as my erotic fiction writing and posting on sites like Literotica.com and Storiesonline.net .

Has it been rough on both of us? Yes.

We still have a rough road ahead of us.