Past a year!

Well a lot has happened over the past year. Just a quick update, grad school is going well, our bills are all paid off, so mortgage, loan and utilities are all we have to pay and that has taken a hug amount of stress off us, and we have been moving forward with D/s.

We spoke with each other and both agree that we are enjoying the new dynamic of our relationship. I think we have a little different idea as to what to call it. I don't quite think we are 24/7 Master/collared slave, as there is wiggle room for her to "time out" of the situation. I'm sure she is under the impression that we are, and that the so called "wiggle room" is just me not being "dom-ly" enough and holding firm on my convictions.

But despite, our two levels of what a collared slave is, we are patiently working towards an ideal. What that is, in my mind, is a little more concrete than what is in hers. But hey, she's the slave and shouldn't know all the twists and turns in the road ahead, now should she?

Some of the self-censoring on my part is to try and slowly build up the ideas and visualizations of what my turn ons are, that I have been exposed to for quite sometime, while she has never even known that that was viable, or that people did those things. It's more that throwing her into the hard-core deep end of BDSM will freak her out and close her up more than slowly guiding her towards the freak that is me!

One of the best mantras to chant is "patience" and it's true. I'm not trying to turn her into my perfect idea of a slave overnight, I'm not in that much of a hurry, after all we have the rest of our lives together!

This year will be another advancement of her slavery to me. We will grow together. Now that I have been unleashed, there's no putting me back to vanilla land! To be fair, she has been enjoying all of this as well. Communication has always been good. She is enjoying the spice in our intimacy, and enjoys all the attention she is getting from me!